People are complicated. And the way people feel is even more complicated, but nowadays with the vast amount of gender identities and expressions, there are ways to make being yourself a little less complicated. And I think I've got it figured out. ...for the most part. anyways, this is really just me ranting about what I feel I am, and I think it would be cool to come back to this in like... 5 years and see if I still feel the same. ...okay. This is a tricky subject, but I'm pretty sure I mostly understand how I feel. For years, I didn't feel like a guy, or a girl, and the only trans I thought existed was transmale and transfemale, so I was kinda stuck in the middle with... something. I don't see myself as having any gender at all, and I use the term genderless to describe myself. Sometimes if someones confused by that, I use the term agender to make it easier for other people to understand how I feel. Agender is defined as not having a gender, or a "lack" of gender, so I feel like it represents my experience pretty well. Although, agender seems like a gender itself in my brain even tho it's not, so it's not the best. But I don't care that much. Im just me. Which is pretty cool actually. I've never really liked being seen as anything other than a thing, which some people will probably see as pretty weird or whatever, but like. i don't care LOL What I am is none of anyone elses business, imo. To me, gender is an incredibly personal thing, and everyone experiences it differently. I like using nouns and feelings to describe my lack of gender, as it makes me feel more comfortable. Also due to my spirituality I am heavily connected to canines so I tend to use them a lot. (primarily wolves, hyenas, coyotes, etc) My pronouns are pretty simple. It/its/itself seems to work for me best, I like the way they make me feel lol. People (mostly my family) have told me "but, if we call you an it, it makes you seem like a thing! You don't want tha-" I do actually. I do like being a thing. I'm still a person, but instead of a boy or a girl, I'm a thing. I also like he/him/himself pronouns, I'm still very comfortable with my masculinity despite not identifying as male, I don't care being called a "dude" or a "guy", or even outright called a boy or man. I'm just comfortable existing as a thing that appears a little more masc. I don't like they/them/themselves pronouns for some reason. I'm not sure why, but I just don't like it. Same goes for she/her/herself pronouns lol. I don't actually mind neopronouns, such as xe/xem, or even nounself pronouns, such as pup/pupself, or hound/houndself. Neopronouns have existed a long time, I don't see why I should treat them any differently to he or she. I don't say I use them, but if they were used for me, I wouldn't mind. Although, I feel like I'm only okay with it as long as it's online, idk why. But yeah, I don't mind them. So as long as we're on the web, go nuts As a general rule, I don't share my personal romantic and/or sexual preferences with people I'm not familiar with, as personally I feel like that kind of thing is something you shouldn't have to share unless you're actually pursuing a relationship with whomever you're sharing your preferences with, or you're already friends. but that's just my personal opinion. But anyways, for the sake of this log, I'll summarise my basic experience. I used to never really experienced romantic attraction, and every time I thought I did, it ended with it really being platonic or aesthetic attraction. I am autistic, and I struggle even with most non romantic relationships regularly, I never know how I feel, or how the other person feels, and it's a mess. So, I see myself as nebularomantic. Nebularomantic means that I do not understand if I'm feeling romantic attraction or not because of my neurodivergency. In dating, I tend to be overly clingy and obsessive, and very insecure, because of this I tend to avoid dating much as I feel I'm not the best partner. In terms of my type, I don't like labelling my sexuality, same as my gender, but my attraction generally aligns with bisexual, but still remains fluid. 
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